What Should Be Included In A Beginner Bondage Set?
We’re glad you decided to dip your toes into the kinky pool. Let’s talk about beginner bondage sets. These kits are made to give couples a taste of kink without diving in at the deep end. Think of it as BDSM with stabilisers. We wouldn’t say these are all ‘must haves’ in a bondage kit, but these are what you can expect to see in one.
Most beginner sets start with wrist and ankle cuffs. They're usually made of soft materials like velvet, with adjustable Velcro closures. No need for Houdini-level escape skills here! You'll most likely find a blindfold tucked in there. It's usually a simple, elasticated jobby - nothing too fancy, but enough to add some mystery to your play, and still does the job. The point of it is to heighten the rest of your senses.
As well as this, you’ll probably find some silky rope, around 5-10m long. Great for some basic ties that won’t have your bedroom looking like a sailor’s knot class. Another toy to look out for is a small flogger. It’s most likely going to be a lightweight one for teasing. Think mild play. Not full on 50 shades of grey stuff.
There may also be a mouth gag. On the smaller side of things, and will include breathing holes. It’s like a testing the water type ball gag. Some kits throw in a collar with a leash. Again, this’ll be made from softer materials, we’re not talking full-on, heavy-duty leather here! Lastly, and importantly, you can expect to find some instructions. It will cover basic knots, safety tips, and maybe some ideas on how to get started.
Remember, these are designed to get you started with BDSM. You gotta crawl before you can walk! Once you’ve tried one out, enjoyed it and want to progress, you can then go on to the more extreme stuff. We’re talking bondage hoods, medical fetish and heavy-duty leather bondage gear. For now though, you’ll everything you need to ease into it. Just add enthusiasm (and some lube!).
Advice On Choosing A Starter Bondage Kit?
Shopping for your first bondage kit? Don't get tied up in knots! Here's what to think about when buying a quality starter set.
First of all, think about safety and comfort. Look for kits with adjustable, padded restraints. Velcro is great for quick release, while buckles offer more secure play. Avoid cheap materials that might chafe, itch or break. Think versatility. A good kit should offer different options. Look for sets with various attachment points and switchable pieces. This lets you experiment and grow without buying new gear every week.
Next up- quality matters. Go for trusted brands, and read reviews. A sturdy kit may cost a little extra, but if it lasts longer, it’s safer to use and is made from safe materials- it’s going to be worth the investment. A tip that might be overlooked, is to consider storage. A discreet case may come in handy, especially if you’ve got nosy roommates, or kids! We’d also recommend investing in some flavoured lubricants, oils and sex toy cleaners. These are great for winding down after a session, and the cleaners are self-explanatory! A clean toy is a happy toy, after all.
Last but not least, choose a kit that appeals to you! Pick one that has the bondage equipment you want to try, and the chances are you’ll definitely use it rather than tuck it away in the cupboard. Who knows, this could be the start of an incredible BDSM journey. You can also try out butt plug sets, pussy pumps, penis pumps and strap ons if you want to further explore your sexuality.
What Are The Basic Rules Of BDSM?
Thanks for signing up to BDSM 101. We’ve got a very knowledgeable team of professors here at RaptureWorks. Let’s get you started in your first lecture. First thing’s first. Consent is above everything. Before you get started, it’s important to set boundaries, and talk with your partner about limits. We don’t want any unwanted surprises to kill the mood here!
Tied in with consent – keep safety in mind at all times. Know yours and your partner’s limits. Making a safe word is a great idea. Something random and unrelated normally works. Try ‘pineapple’ for example, because why not? When you hear this, that’s your cue to stop whatever you’re doing.
Remember, this experience, although intense, will bring you and your partner closer together. Speak openly about your fantasies, boundaries and even concerns. The more you share, the better the experience will be! If you’re new to bondage, the key is to start off slowly. Start off with a simple BDSM set, and work your way up to the big boy dungeon sets. You wouldn’t start a car in 5th gear now would you!
Speaking of gear, we’d recommend you invest in good quality stuff. Cheap is always appealing, but there might be a reason for the price tag. They might often use cheaper materials which might cause damage or feel uncomfortable on the skin. When using bondage gear, aftercare is a must. Provide comfort and reassurance post-play. Cuddles, water and snacks are essential.
Learning BDSM techniques
Whether it’s tying knots or using a mouth gag, be sure to know what you’re doing. Watch Youtube, read a book, or do some research online. If you’re going to do it, do it properly. If not done properly, you might be put off bondage for the wrong reasons!
Remember, it’s not just sex whips and chains all of the time. It can be as simple as just a BDSM collar or as intense as suspension bondage. Find what’s best for you. There’s so many angles to explore, there’s bound to be something you’ll love.
Pay attention to physical responses. If someone’s turning blue (and not from the nipple clamps!), then something may be wrong. If your partner looks like they’re not enjoying it, we’d recommend stopping and checking. Lastly, and importantly, make sure to have fun and enjoy the journey. Don’t take anything to seriously to start with – if you’re not laughing at least once during a session, you’re probably doing it wrong! Please kink responsibly.
