What Is It Like To Wear A BDSM Collar?
Slipping on a BDSM collar isn’t just accessorizing- it’s a whole experience that taps into power dynamics and trust. Let’s talk about this beloved neck-based kink.
Types Of BDSM Collar
You can expect to find a lot of different kinds. Let’s go through the ranks:
In a D/s (dominance/submission) relationship, a collar of consideration basically means a submissive is being gauged for a possible relationship. Think of it as earning your stripes. It can be removed if things don’t work out, or replaced with a more important one if things progress. Some couples skip this step and start with a training collar.
Training collars are used for, you guessed it, training a sub. Think of it as moving to the next level. Once the dom feels the sub is properly trained, they can move to the next type. Think of it as learning to ride a bike, except the stabilisers are kinky.
Permanent ones – that’s the big league. As the name suggests, this is worn at all times, symbolizing that the sub is deeply involved in the relationship. You can also get a day necklace for subtle, public wear. Protection collars to show that your sub is ‘off limits’. And also a play one, just for the fun times, for those who aren’t totally into the whole D/s thing.
Wearing one is just the beginning though. Dominatrix lovers pair their kinky necklaces with leashes, Estim, penis plugs, restraints, sex whips and nipple clamps. If you’re going to do it, do it properly! For total beginners, we’ve got a range of bondage kits to get you started.
The Physical and Mental Feel Of A BDSM Collar
First off, it fits nice and snug. Whether it’s leather, metal or fabric, one of these babies will hug your neck. For some, it’s quite comforting, like a constant hug. Others may need some time to adjust. The weight is also a factor here. You can get ones that feel like a heavy chain, or others that feel soft and light like a feather. A bit like the handcuffs we have on offer.
Some are studded, printed, thin, worded and colourful. You and your partner are sure to find one you love. The mental part of it is where things get interesting. Wearing one can trigger a submissive mindset. Think of it as a reminder of your role and relationship. For a lot of people, it’s seen as calming and grounding.
This isn’t all, however. For many, it can also represent commitment and belonging. A bit like a wedding ring, but kinkier. Putting one on can be a kind of ritual for both in the relationship, and this is why some people actually have collaring ceremonies. More on that later.
BDSM Collar Safety
As usual, safety always comes first! There are some basic rules we’d suggest you follow:
Always have a quick-release option. No collars during sleep or solo play. Check for proper fit - you want controlled breathing, not choking. Lastly, you don’t want to cross any lines here. Always check with your partner what works best for them and what doesn’t. Remember, boundaries people!
What Is The Significance Of A Bondage Collar?
It’s much more than just kinky jewelry, these accessories are packed with meaning.
The History Behind BDSM Collars
Yes, we need to talk about history here. Ancient societies used neck accessories to show ownership. Fast forward to modern BDSM, and they’re a tool for consensual power play. Guess it’s in our DNA, right?
Wearing one kind of flips a mental switch. It’s like an on/off button for becoming a submissive. Magic, but make it kinky. Some people use it for light hearted fun, but the extreme BDSM crew take it a lot more seriously – we’re talking wedding seriously. This really shows dedication to the cause, and some people in fact have full on ceremonies for collaring.
Bondage collaring ceremonies are BDSM's answer to weddings. Think candles, racing hearts, and a dominant attaching a BDSM collar onto their submissive. It's "I do" with less cake and more leather. Some keep it private, others go big with witnesses and vows. There might be kneeling, hand-feeding, or light flogging. Overall, it's emotional, mixing vulnerability and power. Just don’t invite your family … unless they’re into dominatrix!
Why It Matters To Wear A Bondage Collar
As we’ve discussed, wearing one gives of a symbol of trust, commitment and consensual power exchange. Think of it as a reminder of your role in a relationship, like a naughty post-it note around your neck!
For submissives, it triggers a sense of belonging and security faster than they can say ‘yes master!’. For a dominant, it’s a visible sign of their duty and care. On top of all that, it’s a great conversation starter at parties, if you’re brave enough to wear it out! If people know what it is when they see you or your partner wearing one, it’s like you’re part of an exclusive club. Only the real kinksters know!
Basically, if you’re going to put a ring on it, do it with a collar, and make sure everyone’s on board!
What Does Being A Collared Submissive Entail?
It's like being part of an elite club, but with more leather and less golf. It’s a commitment to the power exchange relationship, usually headed by a dom. This role comes with onuses and joys.
Firstly, you agree to follow the rules set by your dominant. Ranging from daily tasks, up to the down and dirty. You know what we mean! You might have some protocols to follow, like having to kneel when your dom walks in the room! It’s not all bad though, it can be great for your quads!
On the other hand, communication is key. You must talk openly about your needs, limits, and feelings. It's like therapy, but more fun afterwards. Trust is also paramount here. You're putting your physical and emotional well-being in someone else's hands. So choose wisely!
It's not all serious, though. For many, there’s always that feeling of deep joy and pleasure —it can just be so very freeing to let someone else take control. Remember, above all, consent matters. You can always take your submission back. This isn't a life sentence, unless that's your thing! No judgement here! Lastly, being collared doesn't define your whole identity. You're still you, just with extra kinky accessories and a really cool power dynamic. Enjoy safely!
